It’s not fair.

You……

work harder than everyone else.
eat salad when everyone else has pizza. Every single weekend.
were born with these genes.
have to stay vigilant in order to make changes.
don’t have time to exercise.
weren’t educated about health.
*r spouse sleeps in.
*r friends can eat what they like.
lose weight so much slower than everyone else.
gain weight too easily.
can’t gain weight.
have to watch what you eat.
have a job where you sit all day.
are so overweight exercise is especially difficult for you.
weren’t brought up in a healthy household.
have to try at health every single day.

You’re right, it’s not fair.

So, what are you going to do about it?

You are not too busy to workout

One of the most common excuses for not working out is “I’m too busy.”

I do it too.  There are moments when I’m overwhelmed with work, taking lots of calls, writing emails, trying to coordinate my schedule with clients and my alarm is buzzing for me to go to the gym…… I stop and think, “How can I possibly go to the gym when I’m this busy?!“…. or…. “If I just skip yoga this morning I’ll be able to catch up with work quicker and then I’ll feel better!

I caught my mom doing it too. I called her to remind her of our walking group a few weeks ago,

” I can’t tonight. There’s no way — I’m too busy — I haven’t had dinner… I have hours of work left….”

She fired off excuse after excuse. She was really busy and super stressed and I felt for her. I’ve been there. We all have. So, of course, I nudged her,

“Doesn’t that mean you should be walking with us tonight? It will melt away your stress. Give your brain a chance to rest too!”

It took a little convincing on my part, and I’m pretty sure she was peeved that I insisted, but she came around and joined us for walking group. I was beyond proud. I have no doubt she felt she made the right decision. Well, I hope she did.

As for me, I’m getting much better at ignoring the voice in my head that resists exercise. They say it takes 30 days to build a habit and, yeah, that’s true…. but no one ever tells you what it takes to persevere and keep the habit or what it takes to truly love the habit and make it a part of you that you’d never dream of giving up. It takes time and energy to do something that monumental. Especially if you had previously been fighting it for your whole life.

… and I had definitely been fighting the need for exercise for a long, long time.

Lastly, I’d like to leave you with this little tidbit about Gandhi I read this morning. It’s, of course, brilliant, and just one testament to his strength and character. Obviously, Ghandhi was a busy guy, but:

One time Gandhi said to a group of his backers, “I need to set aside one hour a day to do meditation.”

One of the backers said, “oh no, you can’t do that! You are too busy, Gandhi!”

Gandhi said, “Well, then, I now need to set aside two hours a day to do meditation.”

As James Altrucher says in his post, “If he was, in fact too busy, then it meant he was not devoting enough time to his spiritual life. “

The same is true for you, my friends. If you are too busy for your health you are clearly not devoting enough time to yourself. 

 

Do you agree? Disagree? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Comment here or tweet me!

Your fears erased here daily

Gaining a pound is pretty upsetting but should you let it throw off your day? Your week? Your life?

Have you ever cried over a pound? Feared you’ve being doing everything wrong because of one notch on the scale? Ever said to yourself, “Why is this so hard?”

Me too

and

it’s ok…..

Sometimes the hardest part is forgiving yourself. Breathing in and out and remembering that failure comes from trying at something really, really hard.

It’s important, however, to not hold on to that fear, anger, sadness and frustration. Let it go in the best way you know how.

Why don’t you start here?

Dropped Eggs and Weight Loss

If you’re cooking and you drop an egg what do you do?

*pauses while you think about it*

I’ll tell you what you don’t do. You don’t throw down the whole carton of eggs and smash the rest of them…… right?

(Well, hopefully not).

You probably clean up the mess you made and keep right on cooking.

The same should be true of your weight loss efforts (and working towards any goal, really). If you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up, you just slipped! Don’t ADD to the problem by continuing to ruin what you’ve already achieved.

Pick up your mess by learning from your mistakes: What did you do? How can you avoid making the same mistake in the future?

Then, once you’ve cleaned up, keep right on cooking.

Join the Debate: Where Do Bikes Belong?

It all started on my ride to my mom’s house. Someone yelled at me from their car, “GET OFF THE ROAD!!!!”  I wasn’t doing anything wrong. I wasn’t breaking a law or doing anything illegal – the driver was just upset because they wanted to take a right turn while I was crossing the street (apparently not fast enough for them). The yelling scared me (despite it not being the first time) and caught me by surprise but I kept on pedaling. When I posted my workout to Facebook I added the following comment:

……and then the comments started coming in.

J.G.: That’s like saying sharks share the ocean with swimmers. Its a nice idea that bikes have the right of way, but the truth is you have to bike defensively. People are bad enough at sharing the road with other cars.

J.S.: Plus Seattle byclist are asshole and don’t think the rules apply to them.

Shelli Martineau (Me): Trust me, I ride defensively. My problem is with people who yell at me for being on the road. I’m not sorry. Its my road too. So, I’m an asshole?

N.W.: I agree with J.G. Aside from that, I’ll add that I’ve seen many roads that were narrow to begin with that were made even more narrow to include a bike path. So now you’ve got cars whizzing past a cyclist at 45 miles per hour trying to keep their distance from cars coming toward them at 45 miles an hour. India has adopted the traffic law that “Might is Right”. In essence, the bigger the car, the more right-of-way.

Shelli Martineau (Me): I don’t take up any part of the road that I’m not legally allowed to. I don’t break rules. I don’t block traffic or take up room and I certainly don’t harass motorists but people in cars feel they can squeeze me onto the shoulder, yell at me, chuck stuff at me. how is that ok? If I ride on the sidewalk its illegal. I could hit pedestrians. So, where is the middle ground? In India they’ll also let you die in the street.

N.W.: It’s not about the rider, it’s about the stupid notion that cyclists who wear little more than a helmet think the law offers them some form of magical protection from 1000+ pounds of rolling death. It’s like saying you’re legally allowed to walk through a construction site. Yes the workers will be careful if they see you, but if someone is carrying a long 2X4 and decides to make a sudden turn, you’re going to get a good knock in the head regardless of the law.You bring up a good point though, Shelli. They won’t let bikes onto sidewalks because a pedestrian who isn’t paying attention could step out in front of a bike. So now we’re on a larger sidewalk with bikes and vehicles. I think less pedestrians have been killed by bikes than bikers killed by cars. I may be wrong.  At any rate, that doesn’t excuse rudeness by motorists who throw things or berate you from their window. Might be a good reason to get a license plate number.

J.S.: Eh your not an asshole unless you bike like most of the bicyclist in Seattle. Like uh red lights and stop signs don’t apply to them. Pedding 5 miles an hour in first gear down Aurora is maddening. I’m way nice to the ones that follow the rules but they’re few and far out.

P.M.: I can’t believe people throw stuff at you. Christ, people- just share the fucking road- is it that difficult?

A.H.: This should be a part of Driver’s Ed and the driving test. Just because a car is bigger and faster doesn’t mean the driver has the right to not pay attention or give bicyclists space.

N.W.: It doesn’t have anything to do with giving cyclists attention and space. They simply don’t make any noise and aren’t always easy to spot. It doesn’t matter how much it’s rammed down the public’s throat, riding a bicycle around cars is dangerous.

Shelli Martineau (Me): I guess by “ramming it down people’s throats” you mean “reminding people we share the road” and “asking drivers to be mindful of bikes”? My problem is that people flat out harass and endanger cyclists. I’m aware of the danger and I take the risk BC all of the benefits to my health (ironically) and wallet. I wish more people were out there with me – it’d be amazing for everyone. That won’t happen until conditions improve.

P.M.: N.W.- joggers/ walkers are small and don’t make any noise either. Does that mean we should be running them off the road as well?

N.W.: There’s a difference between running people off the road intentionally and doing it because you slowed down to make a right-hand turn and didn’t see a cyclist coming up behind you.

A.H.: Drivers seem to be the more aggressive party when dealing with bicyclists – I’ve had people lay on their horn as they change lanes (when there is plenty of space to the side, in front and behind them) to get around me on my bike. I ignore them, despite how much I want to flip them off and tell them to read up on the actual laws of the road. I think the drivers who act like that are ignorant and arrogant, possibly with some underlying anger that they are reminded they aren’t getting the exercise they need.

N.W.: I think more angst is coming from people who have a genuine need to get where they’re going without worrying about the soft, fleshy meatbags on wheels that feel their recreational habits take precedence over their desire not to incur an awful lawsuit should you float out of the bicycle lane and get hit.

I’d LOVE to hear what you have to say, Dear Readers. What do you think?